Comments on: Changing My Name http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/ Award-winning blog on therapy, borderline personality disorder, complex PTSD, major depression, social anxiety and transient psychosis / dissociation. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:49:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Alison http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-884 Alison Wed, 03 Feb 2010 20:27:20 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-884 New name sounds good... I have a friend in the process of changing both his forename and surname! He told me his new first name today... and he's still in the process of deciding his surname! He's changing his name for similar reasons to yourself! New name sounds good… I have a friend in the process of changing both his forename and surname! He told me his new first name today… and he’s still in the process of deciding his surname! He’s changing his name for similar reasons to yourself!

]]> By: Phil Groom http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-797 Phil Groom Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:07:48 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-797 A big, belated well done from me too! I saw you'd done it on facebook and now I understand more why ... and I've already forgotten your old name! Seriously, I've been trying to remember it and it's gone :) One day, perhaps, I'll have the courage to emerge renamed as my alter ego, but for now I guess I'll settle for there being two of me. Big hugs and lots of admiration to you! x A big, belated well done from me too! I saw you’d done it on facebook and now I understand more why … and I’ve already forgotten your old name! Seriously, I’ve been trying to remember it and it’s gone :)

One day, perhaps, I’ll have the courage to emerge renamed as my alter ego, but for now I guess I’ll settle for there being two of me.

Big hugs and lots of admiration to you! x

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]]> By: Wounded Genius http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-636 Wounded Genius Thu, 14 Jan 2010 08:16:26 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-636 Wow this is something that I've thought about doing for similar reasons (and because getting married didnt change it "automatically" of course in my case). Please keep us informed - you are paving the way for a whole generation of name liberation! Wow this is something that I’ve thought about doing for similar reasons (and because getting married didnt change it “automatically” of course in my case).
Please keep us informed – you are paving the way for a whole generation of name liberation!

]]> By: werehorse http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-635 werehorse Thu, 14 Jan 2010 06:55:01 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-635 I changed my name two years ago, as my Christmas present to myself. I kept my first name but changed my middle name and surname. It is a very powerful thing and yes, deeply symbolic. One of the side-effects that I hadn't expected was that I now find it much easier to make phonecalls. It used to be a real problem and I hadn't realised how much that was to do with having to say my old name. I hope you find it as positive and healing a step as I did - yes, the practicalities of getting everything official changed are a bit of a pain but it is definitely worth it! I changed my name two years ago, as my Christmas present to myself. I kept my first name but changed my middle name and surname. It is a very powerful thing and yes, deeply symbolic.

One of the side-effects that I hadn’t expected was that I now find it much easier to make phonecalls. It used to be a real problem and I hadn’t realised how much that was to do with having to say my old name.

I hope you find it as positive and healing a step as I did – yes, the practicalities of getting everything official changed are a bit of a pain but it is definitely worth it!

]]> By: Crazy Mermaid http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-634 Crazy Mermaid Thu, 14 Jan 2010 03:17:20 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-634 This has nothing to do with your decision, and perhaps I shouldn't share it in light of the seriousness of your decision, but I share it to inject a little levity into this very sombre situation. I apologize in advance if you find it in poor taste. Anyway, while i was in the very midst of my delusion, my friends (Bill and Melinda Gates) revealed to me that my real name was Pangea Mermaid. They encouraged me to change it. Unlike your situation where you pondered it for 2 years, within 2 weeks of this revelation I was determined to change my name. Before I could take action I was hospitalized. Now, of course, I'm thrilled that i never went through with it. But your case, I emphasize, is way different, as yours is a case of psychic healing whereas mine was not. This has nothing to do with your decision, and perhaps I shouldn’t share it in light of the seriousness of your decision, but I share it to inject a little levity into this very sombre situation. I apologize in advance if you find it in poor taste. Anyway, while i was in the very midst of my delusion, my friends (Bill and Melinda Gates) revealed to me that my real name was Pangea Mermaid. They encouraged me to change it. Unlike your situation where you pondered it for 2 years, within 2 weeks of this revelation I was determined to change my name. Before I could take action I was hospitalized. Now, of course, I’m thrilled that i never went through with it. But your case, I emphasize, is way different, as yours is a case of psychic healing whereas mine was not.

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-633 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:32:21 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-633 I didn't know that - thanks for the information! You're in no rush I suppose - give yourself plenty of time to think about it, weight up all the pros and cons and if you're still thinking about it in a year or two, then look into it. Good luck whatever you decide! Take care x I didn’t know that – thanks for the information! You’re in no rush I suppose – give yourself plenty of time to think about it, weight up all the pros and cons and if you’re still thinking about it in a year or two, then look into it. Good luck whatever you decide!

Take care x

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-632 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:26:46 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-632 Thank you hun - I think it's something I need to do :-) xxx Thank you hun – I think it’s something I need to do :-)

xxx

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-631 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:26:08 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-631 Self-affirming! That's the word I've been looking for. Exactly :-) Not long now! Take care babes xxx Self-affirming! That’s the word I’ve been looking for. Exactly :-)

Not long now!

Take care babes xxx

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-630 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:25:16 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-630 Yeah, the UK Deed Poll Service (with whom I am doing this) say that if the banks et al don't accept their deed poll, they will refund the cost of obtaining it. I know other people who've changed their name through these folk and it went smoothly, so it should be OK :-) The name is after one of an obscure but brilliant sci-fi author. It also is the name of a character in a TV series I really like, one of the most well-developed characters ever conceived. So it stood out as the obvious choice :-) Take care hun xxx Yeah, the UK Deed Poll Service (with whom I am doing this) say that if the banks et al don’t accept their deed poll, they will refund the cost of obtaining it. I know other people who’ve changed their name through these folk and it went smoothly, so it should be OK :-)

The name is after one of an obscure but brilliant sci-fi author. It also is the name of a character in a TV series I really like, one of the most well-developed characters ever conceived. So it stood out as the obvious choice :-)

Take care hun xxx

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-629 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:21:14 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-629 You mean to tell me you are <strong>not</strong> Lola Snow?!! ;-) Yes, apparently you can change your name back should you wish, so that option is certainly open. I think you've hit the nail on the head - it <strong>is</strong> like declaring your independence. I am saying to all that this is me, and I am not associating any longer with those who I do not wish to be associated. Yay! Take care xxx You mean to tell me you are not Lola Snow?!! ;-)

Yes, apparently you can change your name back should you wish, so that option is certainly open. I think you’ve hit the nail on the head – it is like declaring your independence. I am saying to all that this is me, and I am not associating any longer with those who I do not wish to be associated. Yay!

Take care xxx

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-628 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:18:30 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-628 Thank you for sharing your story, Sarah - it's was very moving to hear how much your name change has meant for you. I'm am so glad that it brought you such peace. Thanks again x Thank you for sharing your story, Sarah – it’s was very moving to hear how much your name change has meant for you. I’m am so glad that it brought you such peace.

Thanks again x

]]> By: differentlysane http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-627 differentlysane Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:15:05 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-627 Yay to taking the first step. I've been considering changing my name for a while (first and last) but not really sure... I have a friend who changed his twice - long story short, but changed his name to separate himself from past, then decided on a religious conversion and wanted something "more fitting". Actually in judaism it is quite common to change your name after a life threatening illness - something to do with fooling the angel of death... - interesting fact and one that friend of mine from volunteer place was using to encourage my name change (a number of people at volunteer place have changed theirs). Take care, Differently Yay to taking the first step. I’ve been considering changing my name for a while (first and last) but not really sure…

I have a friend who changed his twice – long story short, but changed his name to separate himself from past, then decided on a religious conversion and wanted something “more fitting”.

Actually in judaism it is quite common to change your name after a life threatening illness – something to do with fooling the angel of death… – interesting fact and one that friend of mine from volunteer place was using to encourage my name change (a number of people at volunteer place have changed theirs).

Take care,
Differently

]]> By: fromthesamesky http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-626 fromthesamesky Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:46:17 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-626 Well done you! What a marvelous step. :) Well done you! What a marvelous step. :)

]]> By: GirlInterrupted http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-625 GirlInterrupted Wed, 13 Jan 2010 17:19:59 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-625 Fantastic! Well done you on taking such a brave and important step ~ it really is a very self~affirming thing to do, especially with respect to identity in both a psychological and day~to~day sense. A rebirthing, if you will. So happy rebirthday! K xx Fantastic! Well done you on taking such a brave and important step ~ it really is a very self~affirming thing to do, especially with respect to identity in both a psychological and day~to~day sense.

A rebirthing, if you will.

So happy rebirthday!

K xx

]]> By: Bippidee http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-624 Bippidee Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:47:55 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-624 Big congratulations! Obviously it is a nuisance changing your name, but women change their name all the time (when they marry or divorce) so all the banks and official people must be used to it. I hope you feel more comfortable with your new name. Did you pick a random name that you liked, or something from your Mum's side of the family or how did you choose? Big congratulations! Obviously it is a nuisance changing your name, but women change their name all the time (when they marry or divorce) so all the banks and official people must be used to it. I hope you feel more comfortable with your new name. Did you pick a random name that you liked, or something from your Mum’s side of the family or how did you choose?

]]> By: Lola Snow http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-623 Lola Snow Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:43:46 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-623 Congratulations. If you ever did regret it, I don't think legally there is any reason why you couldn't reverse the process. Sometimes doing something like this sends out a clear message, and a strong message, both to those around you and to yourself. I guess it's a little like declaring your independence. Lola x PS I contemplated changing my name to Lola Snow once, but then thought that could bring endless complications ;) Congratulations. If you ever did regret it, I don’t think legally there is any reason why you couldn’t reverse the process. Sometimes doing something like this sends out a clear message, and a strong message, both to those around you and to yourself. I guess it’s a little like declaring your independence.

Lola x

PS I contemplated changing my name to Lola Snow once, but then thought that could bring endless complications ;)

]]> By: Sarah Olson http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-622 Sarah Olson Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:32:32 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-622 I missed your original inquiry about this. I legally changed my name from my birth name to Sarah Elyse about 15 years ago. In the U.S. it just involves jumping through a lot of paperwork hoops, and then publishing it in a local paper several times. My birth name, Anita Carol, was (to me) tainted, while since earliest memory my Sarah part(s) were the most free, most expressive, most inner-beautiful essence of who I believe I really am. I did not discover till a year later why I (cluelessly) had insisted on the new middle name of Elyse. My Inside Sarah's very well-hidden twin was named Charyse Noel. Reverse the name and you see ... NoEL CharYSE = ELYSE. The twins were reunited, legally. (Cluelessness is no obstacle in DID/MPD!) And yes, it's just a piece of paper proclaiming your new name, but my entirety felt as if a terrible burden had been lifted. As if I could start breathing again. The feelings about it are very real. I hope your change fulfills your need and desires to do so. Sarah I missed your original inquiry about this. I legally changed my name from my birth name to Sarah Elyse about 15 years ago. In the U.S. it just involves jumping through a lot of paperwork hoops, and then publishing it in a local paper several times.

My birth name, Anita Carol, was (to me) tainted, while since earliest memory my Sarah part(s) were the most free, most expressive, most inner-beautiful essence of who I believe I really am. I did not discover till a year later why I (cluelessly) had insisted on the new middle name of Elyse. My Inside Sarah’s very well-hidden twin was named Charyse Noel. Reverse the name and you see … NoEL CharYSE = ELYSE. The twins were reunited, legally. (Cluelessness is no obstacle in DID/MPD!)

And yes, it’s just a piece of paper proclaiming your new name, but my entirety felt as if a terrible burden had been lifted. As if I could start breathing again. The feelings about it are very real.

I hope your change fulfills your need and desires to do so.

Sarah

]]> By: Serial Insomniac http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-621 Serial Insomniac Wed, 13 Jan 2010 15:53:09 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-621 It does require careful consideration. Someone said to me when I first started thinking about it that if I was still seriously considering it a year later, that it would then seem fair to then proceed. Two years have passed, so... Anyway, thanks hun. Good luck if you ever decide to do it x It does require careful consideration. Someone said to me when I first started thinking about it that if I was still seriously considering it a year later, that it would then seem fair to then proceed. Two years have passed, so…

Anyway, thanks hun. Good luck if you ever decide to do it x

]]> By: bourach http://serialinsomniac.com/2010/01/13/changing-my-name/comment-page-1/#comment-620 bourach Wed, 13 Jan 2010 15:49:24 +0000 http://serialinsomniac.wordpress.com/?p=866#comment-620 I've thought about doing this too. It's a huge step and I'm impressed you've done it. All power in your hands ;) I’ve thought about doing this too. It’s a huge step and I’m impressed you’ve done it. All power in your hands ;)

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